
Writing a memoir is a great way to share your personal stories with your family, friends, and the general public. Everyone has a valuable story to tell. But telling it can be tricky.
Have you ever sat with someone over coffee or a meal while they went on and on and on and on about people you don’t know, will never meet, and wished you could just duct tape their mouth shut? Well, that’s how your reader may feel if your memoir is simply a play-by-play of your life with no thread connecting it to your reader’s life. At least with a book, they can close it and as Dorothy Parker once quipped, toss it across the room “with great force.”
So how do you keep a reader interested?
Don’t start from the beginning. Unless your birth was hilarious, was in the balance of life and death, or some other standout situation, then no one else wants to read about it. Common experiences are not fodder for memoirs. I was born. I died. What of it? What readers really want to know is what happened in the middle parts.
Decide who your audience is. Everyone says, “Potentially, everyone!” Wrong. Think about your real audience. If you are a doctor, will other doctors be reading it? Is it a legacy project for your family to keep for the next generation? Are you going to present it as a “how not to live” story?
If you are writing for your family then stories about family events, quirks, and history are perfect. That story about the day you "borrowed" your father’s new car and drove into town only to have it stolen by hooligans and you had to walk home in the cold and tell him about it? That would make a great story to tell your family, particularly if it helped illustrate a character’s defining traits. Was your dad a laid back guy who didn’t notice the car was missing for weeks? Or was your dad a tyrant? Were you afraid to tell him and thus paid the neighbor’s kid five bucks to tell him for you?
That same story, though, has no business being in a book for doctors unless it somehow ended with you crashing the car, breaking your leg in three places, and while in the emergency room you met a cute nurse and your career path was forever decided.
Map out your best stories. It is sometimes hard to tell who your audience is going to be. Outline your best stories: you’ll know them because they are the ones people listen to raptly, laugh at every time, or say, “Wait ‘til you hear this!” before you even begin. Again. Keep in mind who your audience is.
Don’t try to cram it in all at once. So after looking at your stories, you realize you are a multifaceted personality! Now what? Consider writing two books or split your memoir into parts. The parts don’t have to be by date ranges. They can be by topic. Consider structuring your memoir around your stories. Are they about love and relationships? Are they career oriented? Are they about family? These are perfectly natural ways to split up your memoir.
Don’t lie. At Wheatmark our authors often invoke the name of the queen of all media in hushed tones heavy with implied fantasies and goals for their books. Well, the chances are slim to nil, but what if you DO end up on Oprah? Remember what happened to James Frey, author of “A Million Little Pieces.” They found him out. David Sedaris, celebrity memoirist, was quoted in an article when doing publicity for “When You Are Engulfed in Flames,” saying that a memoir is the last place to look for truth. However, you should keep in the truth realm. The truth is often far more interesting than fiction anyway. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be writing a memoir. You’d be writing a novel, right? Right.
Basic writing skills are still required. It is your life. But you need to work within the familiar framework of grammar, tense, and storytelling. When you tell your stories, make sure that you're writing in past or present tense and that you are consistent. Also, no matter what your plan is for your project, have it professionally copy edited. There is nothing more offending to readers than poorly edited text. A professional is trained to catch all the tehs, and other mistakes that will separate your independently published book from the traditionally published ones.
Commit to a draft copy. Allow yourself room to tell the story properly. Don’t worry about the length to begin with. Get the story down. Hand bits out to friends and interested parties for feedback. But first, write yourself out. Get every thought down with reckless disregard for whether it is interesting or good. Through this process you may discover that your book is something altogether different, is two books, is a comedic history not a serious retelling of your life, or that you should leave out the part of a Aunt Mabel cheating on your Uncle Sal because he still doesn’t know about it yet.
Use images. If you tell a story about your sister Rhoda’s giant nose, it would be really great to include a picture of Rhoda so your audience can see it. Adding images to a book will cost a little more, but this is your history. Tell it right, show it right, then publish it once. Has your life’s motto been “No regrets?” Well, this isn’t the place to skimp!
Set a deadline. This gets really important for our more mature memoirists. How to put this delicately … you’ll want to aim for a publishing deadline that you’ll be around for. Some writers find it helpful to outline their book first and then fill out the “bones.” This is a great way to keep on task. Maybe set a word limit you’ll try to reach for the day, week, or month. Then stick to it. It will help you feel you’ve accomplished something, even if the next day you delete it all.
Publish it with Wheatmark. Well, of course! We’ll make sure your memoir is a sight to behold. A beautiful cover, expertly designed interior, and availability on major online book retailer sites such as Amazon, B&N, and will be orderable from an bookstore. Not to mention our own bookstore site! Your life story is important, and so is the publisher you choose. You can find cheaper, but you won’t find better!
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